So, I’m bossy.  And nine times out of ten my personality works very well for me.  I get it done on my job, I’m organized at home, and can plan a meal for 10-15 folks lickity split.  Why?  ‘Cause I’m a boss.  I don’t want to be the boss of The Mister though.  We went to a dinner a while ago and saw a lady straight up treating her husband, who happened to be a grown man, like a two-year old.  Telling him what to do, how to eat, talking over him if he deigned to have something to add to the conversation.  It was very uncomfortable, let me tell ya.  Homegirl actually yelled at him when he didn’t do what she asked.  Yelled at him.  In front of people.

This book actually has a checklist in the first chapter to find out if you’re really strong-willed or not.  I was reading it while The Mister was doing something else and just started laughing.  Out of 40 markers, I checked 38 of them.  He looked at me like he wasn’t surprised when I told him that fun fact.  I’ll just pick out a random five for you to look at:

·         I like to be the person in charge.  (Clearly.)

·         I have strong opinions and convictions and like to share them. 

·         I can’t seem to back down in an argument even when I know I should.

·         I believe I shouldn’t have to repeat myself. (For real!)

·         I hate to ask for help. (With a passion.)

The writer, who’s a SWW (strong-willed wife) herself, has lots of good things to say about us bossy ladies and here’s one of my faves:  we are born leaders with firm convictions and are willing to go to  just about any length to make our dreams a reality.  We are dynamic, charismatic, confident, outspoken, and independent.  We are passionate about what we believe to be true and love an opportunity to share what we think with other. Holla!  That sounds good, right?  But in a marriage/family construct, if we SWW’s let our stuff get out of control, this could happen:

·         “Motivation” turns into just being “Pushy”

·         A “Problem Solver” turns into a “Busybody”

·         Our being “Opinionated” turns into being “Argumentative”

·         “Independence” could turn to “Overly Self-reliant”

·         “Determined” could change us to “Stubborn”

Ouch.  But work isn’t home and I’d doubt that any of us would want to live with a person who is pushy and argumentative and stubborn.  And we certainly don’t want to be that person.

This book talks about how the Bible says marriage should look.  Anyhoo, this book doesn’t say that being a SWW is bad.  As a matter of fact, it says that it’s how God made us and why our hubbies fell in love with us…we just gotta watch it so we don’t go over to the dark side. Any other bossy ladies out there?  How do you make it work in your home?  Do you feel yourself going to be dark side sometimes?  How do you get back?

September 13 through November 8 from 7:00—8:30 p.m., we will be holding an eight week women’s Bible Study called “Having a Mary Heart in a Martha World.” by Joanna Weaver. There will be a $10 charge for the book. Please register by contacting the church office. Only 5 spots left. Childcare will be available by RSVP only at info@southbay.cc

Women of Faith

The Women of Faith Conference is coming up October 15th & 16th in Tampa.  If you are interested in attending to register online before we open it up to the public at large in April.  The cost this year is 89.00 for both days, which is great!  That includes lunches as well!  This year you can pay all at once or a little each month.  If you are not comfortable with computers let me know at info@southbay.cc and I can register for you. Ladies this is an outreach to all women you may be in contact with at your church, workplace, or in the community.  I am merely just coordinating a platform to invite people you may know.  I have reserved for my daughters to go and one person that God will bring for me to invite.  He always has in the past and the conference have made an impact on me.  Here is how to register and once I receive the registration you can begin making payments. 

1. go to http://gps.womenoffaith.com/

2.Click on Find a Group and the type in KAREN SPEICHER.

3.Click on the link on the right side of the screen that says JOIN GROUP 

4.Fill in all their own information and press SUBMIT.

5.Once you have been approved the pay button will show up and you can begin making payments.